Over the weekend, a group of friends discussed the rising spate of violence in marriages today and someone noted that most marriages experience violence because the women married for no authentic reason.
For many, age is one of the deciding factors when it comes to marriage. It is not unusual to hear many ladies say they can’t get married to a man five years older than they are while for others the thought of getting married to someone a year older is not a thought to consider.
Marriages have their ups and downs, but when a couple decides to punish each another by stopping all obligatory responsibilities, what does it portray? Is it right to use obligatory responsibilities as a weapon of one against the other? Ngozi (not real name) narrates her agony: “I have a problem with my hubby who works out of town.
“I got married three years ago at the age of 22 years. My husband is 11 years older than I am and I sometimes feel as if I am missing out on a particular stage of my life. I am really not getting the fun I hoped I would get from the marriage as he is not the romantic type.
“When my unmarried daughter told me she was pregnant, I was worried but I became even more worried when I found out that she was pregnant for a married man.
“My neighbour’s child bullies my son and deprives him of his toys or the opportunity to play with certain toys.
Friends are a part of our lives and once in a while we oblige them favours, after all “I’m just five months old in marriage and my friend of two years called to let me know if she could crash in my matrimonial home for two days.